Sometime ago, I was at a gathering where I saw a mother struggling to keep her baby quiet.
She got up, left her husband, put her baby in the stroller and wheeled him outside to settle him

She got back after some minutes but the baby was still not settled; got up again and left while her husband continued sitting unperturbed.

This mum finally came back with her baby asleep in her arms. She got to her seat and found the baby bag and feeding bottle on it. She then struggled to put them on the floor while making sure the baby in her arms remained steady and asleep.
Her husband who sat next to her seat just continued paying attention to the speaker, completely oblivious to all that was going on!

As I watched them from a distance, I felt sorry for her and also felt like giving the man a piece of my mind. I mean, "Can't you see that your wife is struggling? Can't you even help her? Isn't the child yours too?"
I was so pained like I was the one struggling.

I thought to myself, if she was having to go through this outside, I wonder her struggles at home! She carried the boy until the programme was over and I saw her still pushing the empty stroller out with the boy in her arms while the man of the house walked majestically ahead of her. I had to pinch myself to calm down!

Why am I sharing this?

Dear Men,

Looking after a child is not the woman's responsibility only, it is also your responsibility! No woman came from Heaven with a manual teaching her how to look after a child! In fact, some of us were as clueless as yourselves but we had to learn!

Caring for a child can be very overwhelming and emotionally draining especially if you live in the Western World where there's hardly anyone to help! It is important that you are actively involved in babysitting, feeding, changing diapers, bathing the baby etc! Give your wife a break!

Please see to it that you change, see to it that you assist in looking after your baby, it will give your wife so much joy and you would witness your marriage enter a whole new beautiful level!
Just ask your wife how you can help, I'm sure she would willingly show and teach you how. It is not too late to start!

PS. If you are still single, start learning how to care for a baby, your wife will bless you.

Lots of love,
Dr. Blessing Ekundayo