I used to have issues with my husband not accepting my advice. I mean, when it was clear that my advice was great.

I would then become angry when he refused to go with it and do it his way instead when clearly my idea was the better one for us.

I later realised my approach and attitude were wrong.

Over the years, I’ve learnt that whenever I have ideas or advice or ways I prefer him to do something - I bring it to him as a suggestion.

More importantly, acknowledge his ideas to start with (he taught me this).

For example ‘Babe, I see what you are trying to do with that plan, I think it’s a brilliant idea, so proud of you! I was just thinking to suggest xyz, maybe it would work too? Well done Darling’.

This works most of the time and he takes them onboard!

Are you struggling to convince your husband with your ideas?

Do these steps - Acknowledge his ideas, Praise him, Suggest your idea and Praise him again.

Leave it there, don’t force your way and don’t compare his idea with yours. Leave him to do the comparison, he will think about it and likely come back to you.

Remember, you are his helpmeet, help with wisdom. Marriage requires a lot of wisdom.

Have an amazing week ahead.

Regards

Dr Blessing Ekundayo

Relationship Educator and Mental Health Practitioner.